Isn’t it the Dalai Lama who says ‘my enemy is my greatest teacher’?  I don’t need enemies, I have a husband. 

When you’re in a committed relationship – there are times you wish you weren’t.  Sure, there are the everyday habits and annoyances you’d prefer to do without.  But I’m talking about the times you seriously wish you had a naked ring finger.

It happened to me just the other day.  We’re talking about something serious and my Honeybunny reveals his belief that he can’t tell me anything.  I proceed to tell him why he’s mistaken (a fully logical rebuttal based on the issue at hand).  He has the nerve to shake his head and say “Just like I say, I can’t tell you anything”. 

Ouch!  No one would get in my face like this if I was single!  I could be telling humourous childhood stories to a hunky first date in a restaurant dressed in an attractive frock.  I could be happily prancing about in my own denial about being ‘easy to get along with’ or ’laid back’. 

But no, instead I’ve got someone in my house who tells me the things I’d rather not hear. 

It’s unfair – I’d be happy to let him tell me something if say, the topic was one I was unfamiliar with.  But really, if I know anything about it, I’ve already formed a conclusion and, sorry sweety,  it’s probably the *right one*.

He took the air right out of me.  It’s like having a mirror held up to your face that no one else has the guts to even pick up.   And yeah OK, it was accurate.

Hello I’m Corilee and I have a need to be right.  And yeah it’s not the first time I’ve seen this one.  Here are my insights for any of you fellow sufferers.  If you stop needing to be right for just one lousy minute:

- You might find out there’s more useful information to be had out there.

- You can enjoy the silence. Silence is good.

- You give someone else a chance to be right too.  Wow what a gift, especially to the lucky person that lives with you.

Thankfully I have someone in my house I can regularly practice with.  Thank god he took up the task of being married to me.