We always seem to forget how much power we have.  My friend was telling me that she could start to feel the edges of a dark depression creep up on her so she took action. 

Things on the job front were driving her nuts and she was feeling powerless to have much impact.  But since it was deal with it or get depressed she had the come-to-jesus meeting with her managers and let them know how she was feeling and what she’d like to see changed.  Depression gone.

Now we can’t lay down the law 24/7.  But we have so much power in how we communicate.  Like in relationships.  Letting someone know what’s going on with us.  Letting someone know what we want.  Letting someone know what we need. 

I think the key is to not rope the other person in (if you weren’t so x I wouldn’t feel so y).  And not to be reliant on them fixing things for you. Ideally what you need doesn’t mean *they* and only *they* can provide it (first do this, then this and then i’ll be happy).  You gotta own it and let go of the outcomes.

How often do we believe, without even being aware of it that - oh it doesn’t matter anyways.  Life will go on as it is regardless of what little ol’ me says or does.  But you just don’t know. 

Ever told someone an opinion and then a day later heard them espouse the same opinion with all your brilliant reasoning to someone else?  Who cares where they got it.  You’ve got an ally.

There’s always an opportunity to shift things.  Reposition things. Cast things in a little different light.  You just never know the power you have.