I’ve been going through a period of uncertainty with some other folks and have to say - wow, we’re all really bad at dealing with uncertainty!

Now, maybe you can relate to this because you’re a Lovable Control Freak (LCF) like me.  LCF’s are all about knowing what’s going on and making it all happen to the best of our abilities.  Uncertainty causes a lot of fear and anxiety for anybody.  And when times are uncertain, and god forbid, outside your control - for a LCF it’s a double whammy.  We’re freaked.

The best way to deal with uncertainty, and the feelings that come with it, is to let go.  And the key to letting go is to let go of the outcomes.  You focus on the work that points you in the direction you want to go and then let go of how it’s all going to turn out. 

Trust that Grace, the Universe, or the Big Guy in the Sky will make it all work out.  Or if you don’t believe any of that let it go anyway.  Trust that the outcomes might be different or better that what you had in mind.  Trust that maybe you don’t know the whole story or the Big Picture.   Whatever it takes, let it go.

The other key to letting go is knowing when to do the work. 

For example, have you ever wanted to make your point of view known to someone you’re in a relationship with?  You say your thing, pontificating eloquently, and notice they’re scraping spinach out of their teeth.  You have no idea if they heard or cared, but you do know that you’re not going to do any good if you harp on it.

And maybe the topic comes up again and you have the opportunity to make your views known.  Or maybe it doesn’t.  Or maybe the topic comes up again and they repeat word-for-word what you told them like they came up with it themselves.  Don’t we LCFs love it when that happens!  But the key is that you did the work and then you let it go.

Psycho Mamma quotes a stat that says 69% of issues in marriages are simply unsolvable.  Wow - hopefully you chose ’socks balled up in corners’ over ‘crippling alcoholism’. 

But if that’s the case, getting better at letting go of stuff will not only save a lot of fear and anxiety - it’ll save your marriage too.